Transitions 2020

In the middle of a pandemic and a civil rights movement (Black Lives Matter), I experienced much pain but also in the midst of the pain, moments of joy. How and why this happens is beyond me. What I have learned is to live in moment – love, laugh, cry, release anger, work on healing yourself from wounds caused by others, and wounds you gave yourself from being your worst critic and not being as kind to yourself. I learned that you can’t pour from an empty cup and there is no shame in saying no when people want your time or resources. Guard your heart.

Every now and then I receive an email or comment about my journey. Most dreams and their journeys are fraught with pitfalls, detours, and snares along the way. It is like “off to see the wizard” only to find out he’s a fraud or poor Frodo not fully understanding what taking the ring meant until he hit the road. Not to deter you just that people always tend to focus on the “success” and not the trials and rejections that seem to be a constant companion while dream chasing.

I wrote an article about dream chasing after reading The Alchemist.

The Alchemist sums up the joy and pain of the dream chaser. “Before a dream is realized, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams, master the lessons we’ve learned as we’ve moved toward that dream. That’s the point at which most people give up. Every search begins with beginner’s luck. And every search ends with the victor’s being severely tested.”

Paulo Coehlo said it best. “We don’t all have the courage to confront our own dream. There are four obstacles. First: we are told from childhood onward that everything we want to do is impossible. We are then faced by the second obstacle: love, afraid of hurting those around us by abandoning everything in order to pursue our dream. The third obstacle: fear of the defeats we will meet on the path. We who fight for our dream suffer far more when it doesn’t work out, because we cannot fall back on the old excuse: ‘Oh well, I didn’t really want it anyway.’ We warriors of light must be prepared to have patience in difficult times and to know that the Universe is conspiring in our favor, even though we may not understand how. The secret of life is to fall seven times and to get up eight times. Then comes the fourth obstacle: the fear of realizing the dream for which we fought all our lives. But if you believe yourself worthy of the thing you fought so hard to get, then you become an instrument of God, you help the Soul of the World, and you understand why you are here.”

I am moving to a different stage of my journey. Dare I say that I am happy, better yet content. I am at peace with myself. I am still trying to be the best me that I can be, but I am learning to be kind and tenderhearted towards myself. Things might seem sparse or quiet on my websites, but I am taking some time to explore other opportunities. However, I am amazed how some of my old articles are still ripe and prescient for the times. Feel free to peruse Ronda-isms.com.

If I have anything pressing to say, it will probably be on my personal Instagram account: @RondaWrites

Thank you for sharing my journey, reading my writings, and your support.


Writing Portfolio



Norman Lewis: Police Beating

Syncopated Ladies (FEATURED HuffPost Arts & Culture)

Grace Jones: Bloodlight & Bami

The Bullpen-Repeat Offenders Welcomed

The Gospel According to Andre

Investing in Black Art



Ageless Innovators: Market Disruptors Over 60

High Tech Networking

Chicago Innovation Awards (FEATURED HuffPost Entrepreneurship)


Smart Funny & Black

Evolution of a Queen-Hail Beyonce

Sipping Beyonce’s Lemonade (FEATURED front page of HuffPost)

Sisterhood:The Women Behind Hip-Hop Labels

Reclaiming Black Love

In Defense of Andre Leon Talley & Michael Jordan

Reclaiming Black Sisterhood

Reclaiming Black Brotherhood

Church in Quarantine: Jill Scott & Erykah Badu

420 Playlist-Get High

Mother’s Day Playlist-Make it Funky


Experiential & Entrepreneurial Learning

Rahm Emanuel & Arne Duncan’s CPS Problem

Yale & Mizzou (FEATURED HuffPost College)

How Not to Make Friends at Work (FEATURED HuffPost College)

Preparing Girls to Succeed in STEM

Advice for College Freshmen

Tips for College Graduates


André Leon Talley: Reigning Men

André Leon Talley Presents: Fluid Fashion ’18 – Gender Fluidity

Saint Louis Fashion Incubator

An Evening with André Leon Talley

Mujus (FEATURED HuffPost Style)

Nubian Skin (FEATURED HuffPost Style)

Style Above the Rim (FEATURED HuffPost Style)


White Feminists & the LGBTQ Community

Rise of the Modern Southern Belle

Feminism and Black Women


Cinco de Mayo with Tres Agaves Tequila

HH Bespoke Spirits

Eli’s Cheesecake: People Driven Mission Focused

Cocktails for New Year’s Eve Celebrations

Taste of Innovation New Frontiers in Food

Currency Exchange Cafe

Vegan Diet: Blueprint to a Healthy Lifestyle


Postpartum Depression & Women of Color

Fertility & Black Women

Anarcha Lucy Betsy: Genocide of Black Women

Grieving 10 Years Later

When Death & Grief Return for a Repeat Visit

Learning to Enjoy the Moment

Dream Chaser’s Guide to The Alchemist (FEATURED HuffPost GPS for the Soul)

Hands on Your Breast: Cancer Awareness

Autism & the Black Community

Surviving a Sexual Predator

Power of a Kind Word


White Feminists & LGBTQ: Time to Pull Up


The Flag & Black Veterans

White Nationalism in the Military

Trump’s Policies Undermines Military Strength


Myths & Misconception about Life Insurance

3 Experts You Should Talk to Before Buying Life Insurance

Using Life Insurance to Close the Racial Wealth Gap in the Black Community

Life Insurance to Build Wealth in the Hispanic Community

$50k or $50 million, the basics of financial planning remain the same

Healing inherited trauma to build multigenerational wealth in the Black community

Devale and Khadeen Ellis’ Journey to Generational Wealth

Retirement Preparation for Women 

Naming a Minor Child as a Beneficiary

Setting Up a Life Insurance Trust for Your Minor Child

5 Questions to Ask About Life Insurance Before Getting Married

Taking Life Insurance on Someone Else

Mother Empowers Daughter to Create Generational Wealth

What to Expect from a Life Insurance Medical Exam

Disability Insurance & How it Works

Hybrid Long-term Care Insurance

Mortgage Insurance (PMI/MIP) vs MPI

5 Tips to Insure Proper Homeowners Insurance Coverage

Using Online Insurance Quote Tools

Rhino: Security Deposit Insurance for Renters

Why You Should Have Renters Insurance

Wills, Trusts, Estates

Teaching Kids Financial Responsibility


Anti-Racism: What Would Peter Norman Do?

Understanding Over-Policing & Defunding the Police

George Floyd, Protests & America

History Lessons: 1918, 1940, 1960

Artificial Intelligence & Scientific Racism

Trump’s Twitter Plague

Hillary’s SuperPredator Comments Matter (FEATURED front page of HuffPost)

In Fear We Trust

Minneapolis: The New Selma

Where’s Margaret Chase Smith’s Republican Party

In Spite of Dr. King’s Dream, We Haven’t Reached the Mountaintop (FEATURED HuffPost Black Voices)

Refugee Crisis: Be in Their Shoes

Millennials – Disrupt the Political Landscape

Western Countries Push Towards Nationalism Bolsters Russia

America: Racism & White Privilege

American Fascism: Trumpism

Trumpism: First They Came For

50th Anniversary of Dr. King’s Assassination

H&M: N Word, Boy & Monkey Never Appropriate


My Brother’s Keeper

Mom Stoops to Conquer

Fathers as Standard Bearers

Woman Love Yourself

Superwoman Has Left the Building

A Father’s Love Letter to His Son

Wedding Elegance

Bridal Checklist: Prenup Agreement


Christian Apathy: All Lives Matter

The Resurrection According to SciFi: Part 1 Avatar

The Resurrection According to SciFi: Part 2 Star Wars & the Matrix

The Resurrection According to SciFi: Part 3 Lord of the Rings & Harry Potter


Brighton: Haven for Creatives

Christmas in Chicago

Memphis: Bring Your Soul & Entrepreneurial Spirit

Marriott Marquis Chicago: Local Centric Global Reach



A rolling stone gathers no moss.

Born and raised in Chicago, I followed sunshine to Los  Angeles after college. I spent my early 20s in Tinsel Town. Oh the stories! While there, a friend with contacts in the entertainment industry suggested that I start screenwriting. I shrugged her off saying, “I’m here to have fun before law school.” After a few years of fun, I returned to the Midwest for law school. In my spare time, I started writing a journal. However, when it came time to take the bar exam, all frivolous pursuits (i.e. anything not legally related) came to an end.

After practicing a few years and experiencing angst at my professional development, I had a longing to pick up my journal and start writing again. I started emailing friends my thoughts on politics, education, etc. One friend replied to my email, “Why are you still in Chicago? You need to be in NY, where it happens. Also, stop sending emails and start a blog so others can hear you.” I replied that I did not want to share my thoughts with the public. The friend was persistent about me moving to New York, especially when I started talking about needing a career change and feeling unfulfilled. Mentoring teens made me more fulfilled than the practice, reminding me of my teaching days. Plus, I started writing. One book turned into three and I wanted to be published. Always dreamed of being Lucy Maud Montgomery-esque.

Fate took matters in its own hands. Clearly, I was afraid to take the leap to NYC. A law school friend was getting married in NYC. I decided to take a week off before the wedding to play tourist. While there, I would visit my persistent “NYC is where you need to be friend.” Well she would have none of that. Why waste time hanging with her when there were people to meet! She arranged a few informational interviews for me with some strategic people. After a few days of informational interviews and taking in the city, the buzz hit me. There is something electric about this city. Things happen here. If you can make it here, you can make it anywhere.

However, realist, practical me always comes through. I could not move to NYC to be a starving author waiting to be discovered without a means to support myself. That meant getting licensed in New York. All law students dread three things: (1) taking the bar – I vowed never to take another when I passed; (2) please don’t let the “rule against perpetuities” be on the bar exam – want to irk an attorney ask them about the rule; and (3) taking the New York bar – pass rate is the lowest in the country. I vowed never to take the bar exam again, so my only hope was reciprocity. There’s the rub. Easier to pass the New York bar exam than to get reciprocity. I challenged the universe and fate. If I get reciprocity from New York, then I have to move.

My friend’s wedding was the first week of October 2010. Immediately when I returned, I applied for reciprocity. November 2010, I started my blog “Ronda-isms.” Why “Ronda-isms?” I have plenty of sayings and ways of doing things. In law school, friends would say, “that’s a Ronda-thing or one of Ronda’s -isms.” So it seem befitting that the blog take that name. December 29, 2010, I was notified that I received reciprocity from the New York. New Year’s Eve, I announced my move to NYC in 2011 to my family and friends. The application process to complete my reciprocity took another three months. Once I completed the paperwork and sent fees, I had a swearing in date of June 2011. It was official. I moved to New York Memorial Day weekend 2011 bright eyed, ambitious, excited, and determined to prove naysayers wrong.

May 25th marks my three year anniversary in the concrete jungle. I blogged about my transitions on Ronda-isms – failures, disappointments, small successes. I started a separate website about a neighborhood I fell in love with. New Yorkers are borough-centric and neighbhorhood-centric. When I moved to NYC, my friend that got married said this, “you did not move to NYC to live on any island other than Manhattan.” I live in Manhattan in the heart of Hell’s Kitchen-Times Square-Theater District. It reminds me of Chicago’s South Loop with easy access to everything within a 15-minute walk (Hudson River Path, Central Park, Lincoln Center, Broadway, Bryant Park, and every subway line).

If you are in my neck of the woods, check out my favorites – All Things Midtown NYC.